She stared at me open-mouthed, waiting for some sensible answer, like maybe all of my child's pants were dirty or better yet, stolen. But I've also seen great big oceans develop between parents and children because of wardrobe and music choices. The amygdala, mentioned earlier, also seems to play a role in determining appropriateness of arousal in context. My daughter is a passionate student, respectful, kind and a really good person who readily communicates her thoughts, opinions and fears with me. I saved my Brooklyn Bridge comment for high school. Those concerns had lain under the surface.
But once my mother was out the door to work, my oldest sister had already changed out of her approved outfit into hot pants, midriff-baring top and suede, knee-high boots.
How 'provocative clothes' affect the brain – and why it's no excuse for assault
One thing that could be said to support the notion that men are vulnerable to being sexually aroused by appearance, is evidence that suggests male arousal is far more visual in nature than female arousal. By the time I had reached middle school, she had come to view her looks as more of a curse than a gift. If it is, our attention is directed towards it, and emotional and motivation processes are activated via our amygdala and anterior cingulate cortex respectively. I didn't want her to think that in order to be "her" she had to keep secrets from me. I saved my Brooklyn Bridge comment for high school. It made me take a hard look at how I was choosing to parent. No, of course not.